The word on the street is that you can’t go forward until there is closure of the old relationship. So is closure a must? I feel the answer is unique to each individual. Some people never really achieve what is viewed as closure and can still go on to have successful relationships.
Is closure that ah-ha moment when you can let go of the past and have forgiveness? And is it absolutely necessary to be able to date again? Check this out:
A Comparison Between Dating & Relationships
There is no emotional commitment when it comes to dating. There are feelings about the actual date but there is no commitment. Dating is basically a practice run.
Now when you compare dating to a relationship it’s like comparing little league baseball to major league baseball. There is a whole lot more to a relationship especially when you have 100% involved your love, your dreams and your future plans.
What we find is that with so much invested in a relationship the process of closure comes in the form of getting back and having control of once again our love, our dreams and our outlook of the future. Because until we have command of these things again we will find it very difficult to start the process of a successful future with someone new.
With That Said…You Know What Sucks?
Lets just say you find another, they have the looks that you like, they are funny, they have manners and they smell good. What sucks is if you are not in control of your feelings from your last relationship this new one doesn’t have a chance.
This might not be what you want to hear but you should really hold off pursuing a relationship until you can be OK without having your ex in your life. Until you can move on without them refrain from getting into any relationship.
Does that mean you are unable to date? No, dating has actually been shown to help people take command of their emotions again.
Getting Back Your Emotions
Here’s the deal: when it comes to dating, closure after a breakup isn’t a necessity BUT closure is if you want to build a successful relationship. So if lasting relationship after a breakup is what you want, then it is well worth your time to practice some emotional wellness. Otherwise it is not fair to you or the other person, know matter what they smell like.
Is it scary to take back your emotions? Yes. Is it worth the hard work? Yes, as long as you are looking at the big picture. The one where your happiness is involved.
There are times when it’s not the right answer to seek closure and move on. If you’re still in love with your ex you don’t have to move on until you’re ready to. You can get your ex back I can show you how. The Make Up Plan